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The following extract was taken from The Finer Minds Guide – Marisa Peer. We thought it a good read and would like to share her view.
As a behavioral therapist, I have had countless clients over the years tell me that a certain fear or phobia is constraining their life, and preventing them from reaching their full potential.
Whether it’s a common fear such as public speaking, or a more unusual one such as fear of a particular animal or object, I always tell my clients the same thing: almost all of our fears are acquired, which means that we’re not born with them and we have the power to get rid of them.
The best way to dissociate irrational fears is to identify the root cause of them. For example, fear of public speaking is always a fear of being judged and then rejected. Giving a speech magnifies this fear because if you mess up or sound unintelligent, there is an entire audience present to witness your failure and judge you.
Fear of a certain food, place, or activity may trigger a memory that was very unpleasant or harmful in the past. In this case your fear is somewhat irrational, as you have forged a negative association with something that’s very unlikely to happen to you again. Central to my practice as a therapist is the idea that the mind controls everything — whether it’s fear, addiction, compulsion, or your body’s inability to carry out a normal function.
Just as your mind has always told you to be scared in a certain situation, it can equally tell you to not be scared in the very same scenario. The important thing to remember is that you are in control of your mind, rather than the other way around.
How you feel about something — whether it’s a certain food, place, or activity like speaking in public — is entirely dependent on two things: the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself. Think about how you might feel happy to hold or touch a ladybird or butterfly, but doing the same to a cockroach or moth would be terrifying; all four are insects that crawl or flutter, but the former two are positively associated with being cute or beautiful while the latter two are thought of negatively as pests.
If you have a fear of injections, it’s because you link pain to the idea of an injection, but if you’re already in extreme pain you’ll start to link pleasure to an injection. If you can change what you link pleasure and pain to, you can begin to alleviate your fears.
Think of two people who are sitting next to each other on a flight from Johannesburg to Cape Town. One is thrilled that they are about to go on holiday and their mind is full of thoughts of sunshine and beaches. The other is dreading the takeoff and terrified that any turbulence will bring down the aircraft. Both individuals are on the exact same plane, subject to the exact same level of risk, and have the same level control over the situation (very little). Yet the person who has formed positive associations with the experience is suffering much less.
You can choose to be the former person to overcome your fear. Even if you’ve had an extremely negative experience in the past that causes your fear today, there are certain physical changes you can consciously make to your body that will help trigger a calming reaction.
For example, lowering your shoulders and swilling saliva around your mouth counteracts the natural reaction to fear (i.e. tensing up the shoulders and getting a dry mouth).
At the same time, tell yourself the opposite of whatever your fear is by using a positive affirmation: “I love insects, they are part of the beauty and perfection of nature” or “I love flying on this plane because it’s taking me home to the family I love.” While you may not believe your affirmation the first time you say it, with repetition and belief, it’s amazing how your mind will respond. Try it today.
RECOVERY AFTER A ROBBERY
A GUIDE TO HELP EMPLOYERS SUPPORT THEIR EMPLOYEES
If your store, business, or office has experienced an armed robbery, your employees may suffer from trauma symptoms. In addition, staff not present during the robbery may also have emotional reactions.
In order to effectively support your employees in recovering from the traumatic experience and returning to normal, a business owner or manager needs to know what to say or do to promote healing. As South Africans, we are preprogrammed to believe that a bank or store robbery means someone is going to get hurt. We’ve watched movies or television shows where a robbery takes place and (almost always) someone is shot and often killed. The evening news only reports a robbery when it’s a large or unusual heist OR when someone is hurt or killed. Most other robberies that took place in the city that day are not even mentioned. Even though the vast majority of robberies do not result in injuries, much less death, employees in a robbery often think: “I’m going to get killed.” “I’m going to die.” “He’s going to hurt me.” “He’s going to hurt us.” “My friends/co-workers/customers may get hurt.” “They’re going to kill us.”
Humans have a primitive bio-chemical response for dealing with dangerous situations. This automatic response prepares the body to fight or flee from a real or perceived threat. The fear causes a chain reaction in the brain, releasing chemicals that cause a racing heart, fast breathing, energized muscles, and other physical reactions. In addition, the part of the brain that controls rational thoughts is bypassed. The more an employee thinks he will suffer injury or death, the greater his traumatization. It’s important to remember that everyone responds differently to a traumatic event based on each individual’s coping ability, values, life experiences, personality, support systems, fears, expectations, and beliefs.
Your employees may experience the same feelings at the same times, or one person’s feelings may be different from the others. Ideally, your company should provide the opportunity to meet with a crisis counselor who specializes in trauma recovery. Crisis counseling within 12 to 48 hours after the incident will help the impacted employees to normalize their feelings, educated them about their feelings and other symptoms, and help in lessening (or avoiding altogether) subsequent trauma symptoms. This will cut down on employee absenteeism, lost productivity, attrition, and workman’s compensation claims.
Even if you don’t have access to a crisis counselor, as an owner or manager, there are things you can do to aid your employees’ emotional recovery.
AFTER THE ROBBERY
1. Make sure managers, including upper management or the owners of the business, check in with the affected employees.
An important part of recovery for impacted employees is the perception that management cares and supports them through the healing process. Therefore management needs to make their communications to the employee in an empathetic manner. The day of the robbery, managers should call or visit the business to enquire about the well-being of their employees and help put the business back in order. (You may not be able to speak with the employees until after law enforcement is finished with their interviews.)
Your conversation should express dismay that the employee was affected, allow him/her to talk about her experience if he/she wants to (sometimes employees feel “talked out”), encourage her to take care of herself, and offer to be of assistance if the employee needs to talk in the future. Although you might need to discuss time off, in this conversation do not discuss other business. This isn’t the time to ask the employee if he’ll still be able to meet his sales goals. That kind of discussion will only give the impression that you value money over the well-being of the employee.
2. Give the affected employees the option to go home or return to work the next day.
Some employees want to return to work right away because that helps them feel more in control. Others may need a few days away from work. Many businesses close for the rest of the day because interviews with law enforcement and their investigation, plus returning the store to order, may take hours. Also the employees may be too exhausted or upset to continue working. Be aware that hurrying employees to reopen the store within a few hours of the robbery may send the message that money is more important than their well-being. Some companies have policies that cover employees in case of a robbery. For example, the company can offer affected employees three paid days off. These days may be taken right away or at a later time if symptoms arise sometime after the event.
3. Educate employees about how they might be affected. A robbery may cause emotional injuries to all who experience the incident.
The victim of a robbery may initially experience any or all of the following thoughts and emotions:
• Denial • Disbelief • Shock • Fear • Anxiety • Guilt
• Hopelessness • Helplessness • Anger • Agitation
Panic – Afterwards the victim may feel:
• Sadness • Grief • Overwhelmed • Confusion • Despair • Unfairness
• Anger • Fear • Helplessness • Anxiety • Guilt • Numbness
• Outrage • Alone • Vulnerable • Depression
These feelings are a normal response to a frightening event. It is important for the victim to allow herself to feel her emotions. Be aware that she can cycle through different emotions. Sometimes these cycles might take minutes, or they can take hours, days, or weeks. Or people may become “stuck” in one or more of the same feelings. Traumatic events can layer on the psyche. If the employee has experienced other traumas in his life, those memories, feelings, and symptoms may resurface, so he’s emotionally hit with a double whammy.
In addition to feelings, the employee may experience symptoms of extreme stress or post-traumatic stress that may occur right after the incident and last for days, weeks, or even months:
• Nausea • Difficulty falling asleep • Tremors • Helplessness
• Sleeping too much • Not eating OR overeating • Depression • Heartburn
• Irritability • Tearfulness • Hopelessness • Jittery
• Headaches • Feeling lost • Overwhelmed • Weight loss OR gain
• Survivor guilt • Numbness • Overly critical • Forgetful
• Flashbacks • Overly sensitive • Denial • Flashbacks
4. Call in a crisis counselor to support and educate the affected employees as well as other employees who weren’t involved, but still have feelings about it.
If your company has a contract with an Employee Assistance Program (EAP), they may provide crisis/grief counselors who, upon request, can come to your jobsite. Counseling is confidential to those who participate. The EAP may also have a confidential hotline, allowing the employees to speak with a counselor. They may also have handouts you can give to your employees. Provide the number to all affected employees.
5. Monitor the employee’s emotional state by asking specific questions.
Most people are programmed to answer the question, “How are you doing?” with “fine” or “okay.” The answer to the question, “Are you all right?” usually is, “I’m fine” or “I’m okay,” even if the employee is far from “okay.” Instead, ask questions about possible symptoms. “How did you sleep last night?” or “Are you having flashbacks?” If you were also involved in the robbery, or have been robbed in the past, use your own experience to normalize your questions. “I’m having a tough time falling asleep. How are you sleeping?” Or, “I remember the first few nights after I was held up at gunpoint, I couldn’t fall asleep. How is it for you?”
6. Avoid “the what” if syndrome.
It’s common for victims to speculate about other things that could have gone wrong. “What if he’d shot me?” “If I had been killed, what would happen to my children?” The more the employee imagines all the ways she could have been impacted, the more she becomes upset and stressed. These fear fantasies further traumatize the victims. Employees who were not present at the robbery can also do this. “What if I’d been there?” What if I’d gotten hurt?” This kind of mental stress is controllable. In a calm, compassionate manner, remind the employee that her fear fantasy didn’t happen. Just pointing out how she is continuing to traumatize herself is often enough for the employee to make the mental effort to curtail her negative thinking.
7. Stay away from fearful thoughts of the future. It’s very easy for employees (both those present in the first robbery and those who weren’t) to fear it happening again.
As long as an armed, uniformed security guard is present at the site, most employees feel secure. But they dread the day when the guard leaves. If there isn’t a security guard, or if the guard is no longer present, employees can remain afraid of another robbery. While you can’t promise employees there won’t be another robbery, you can coach them how to react if one occurs. Aside from what specifically to do at your business, i.e., whether to press the panic button, the best thing an employee can do during a robbery is remain calm. To do this the employee needs to take a deep breath and say to herself, “Remain calm, and do whatever they want. Everything will be over in a few minutes.” The deep breaths and positive mental commands will also help the employee minimize the traumatic response.
8. Be aware trauma symptoms take time to recover from and may surface (or resurface) weeks or months later.
The employees may experience these reactions immediately after an event, or days, weeks, or even months later. The symptoms may last for a few days, a few weeks, or even longer. The symptoms and feelings of trauma may come in waves; reminders can trigger a new wave. Each day doesn’t get progressively better. The employee can have a good day, then a bad day.
9. Have manager and HR regularly follow up with the affected employees. Call every day in the first few days, then every couple of days.
Start the conversation with, “I just wanted to know how you’re doing.” Don’t start the conversation with asking when they’re going to return to work. If you need that information, ask him toward the end of the discussion. After a few days, the trauma symptoms should start to ease. If, after four or five days, the employee still has strong trauma symptoms, suggest he contact the EAP to see a counselor, or meet with a local counselor who specializes in trauma recovery.
10. Realize affected employees may have an anxiety reaction when they return to the business where the robbery occurred.
Employees can re-experience the trauma when they first return to the jobsite. This may cause anxiety, even to the point of thoughts such as, “I need to get out of here.” If the employees are educated as to what to expect, and given empathetic support when they first return, the employees will better weather the transition back to work. It’s best for an employee to not take more than a few days off from work. If an employee has reservations about returning, it might help to ease her into the environment. Start by encouraging her to come in for a short shift, instead of her full shift. Give him “light” or “adjusted” duty. Give the employee a shift that feels more comfortable for him. Some employees may be afraid to close, especially if it’s dark outside.
Employees should seek professional assistance if:
• They feel they need or want to speak with a counselor.
• Disturbing behaviors or emotions last more than four to six weeks.
• Disturbing behaviors or emotions make it difficult to function normally, whether at work, or in family life.
• Others are concerned about their behaviors or emotions.
We are here for You – CRIME SCENE CLEANUP
Proper waste disposal is critical due to the fact that certain types of wastes can be hazardous and can contaminate the environment if not handled properly. These types of waste also have the potential to cause disease or get into water supplies. There are rules and regulations in place for how specific types of waste should be disposed. Following them allows for toxic waste to be safely discarded without the risk of environmental contamination.
Proper disposal is a critical service that keeps our communities sanitary and healthy.
Crime Scene Cleanup Pretoria North and Wollies Animal Project joined hands to assist the Pretoria communities who are currently being affected by pet poisonings. If your furry friend is a victim of this senseless crime please contact Karin Roux from the CSC branch at 0835345051 for assistance.
The dangers involved by handling the lifeless body of your furry friend can have dangerous effects on your health. The poison used on the animals are very dangerous if handled unprofessionally.
This is why we have put together the following service just for you: We will remove and cremate your fury friends body and clean and restore the area where the contamination took place all for just R250.00 per pet. Please note that other areas outside Pretoria can also be attended to at an additional cost.
Ugh, winter. This season is a major, soul-sucking drag, and it’s basically a full-time job keeping yourself from plummeting into total despair during the dark winter months. But, there are ways to cheer yourself up during winter, though it takes a little creativity. Like the sneaky monster it is, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) comes for us all when the temperatures start to drop. However, SAD can be defeated — you just need the right pick-me-ups.
With the correct combo of positive tricks, you can keep that beautiful smile on that even more beautiful face of yours all the way to Spring. The best part is that most of these things are free. And you don’t even need to leave your house — which, especially for introverts (hi there!) — is really a dream come true. Also, none of them require a ton of effort, since most of us have zero energy right now anyway. Give one or all of them a try, and watch your mood instantly improve. Here are all the little ways to cheer yourself up during the winter, because despite the commonality of winter madness, happiness during the cold months is attainable.
1. Get all kinds of cozy – wherever you find yourself, get yourself comfortable;
2. Catch up on all the books you’ve wanted to read – If the chilly weather is keeping you locked indoors, take advantage of this forced downtime by exercising your brain. Read, and read some more. It’s a decision you will never regret;
3. Plan a trip – Even if your bank account hates you right now after wiping it out during holiday’s we have had plenty off, plan a trip. You don’t even need to book anything, because the act of simply planning something fun will cheer you up. It forces you to acknowledge that better days are coming, and winter will eventually end;
4. Catch up on your favourite shows – This is the perfect time of year to do this. Binge on the shows you haven’t been watching, and get all caught up by the time they return from winter hiatus;
5. Rearrange your furniture – your space can use a change, and since you’re stuck inside, now is the perfect time to do just that.
6. De-clutter your life – All of us accumulate so much crap. Especially after receiving a sack full of new goodies for the holidays, our houses are probably packed to the gills with things we no longer need. You can’t exactly “in with the new” until you go “out with the old,” you know? So gather up the stuff you no longer want, and donate it;
7. Watch summer movies – the memory of hot summer days will cheer your up;
8. Drink all the hot beverages – This is the season to suck down all the lattes you can stomach. Try ’em all. Make your own at home. Better not be SAD, be happy, summer is just around the corner.
We know that your company is built on a solid foundation that is comprised of responsibility, passion, experience, quality and performance.
The importance of your valued client’s and staff’s health are of utmost importance when it comes to any trauma incident. With 17 years’ experience in the trauma cleaning industry, we realise that sometimes the most unforeseen events will take place at hospitality premises.
With than on mind, we have responded and assisted in many cleanups where Housekeeping and cleaning staff cannot restore and decontaminate an area where a traumatic or accidental incident occurred. We realise that people may use your facilities to commit suicide (Hotels and B&B’s) as the cleanup will not be the responsibility of the person’s families, nor will they have to deal with the aftermath. Unfortunately, this created a whole new problem for the hospitality industry having to deal with this matter.
Instructing a cleaning company that does not specialize in crime scene cleaning, will not only create a more hazardous situation as their chemicals were not formalized to decontaminate the area, which in tern will create more dangerous bacteria, but you will need to get it done again. Your cleaning staff are not trained in the art of crime scene cleaning and will only remove the cosmetic side of the aftermath, and not remove the source.
Having a scene cleaned properly and correctly should be an integral part of your regulations where health and safety is concerned. We urge you to list Bloodsisters Crime Scene Cleanup (Pty) Ltd as your preferred service provider to ensure all systems are in place when our services are required.
The fact is, Bloodsisters Crime Scene Cleanup (Pty) Ltd is one, if not the only company in South Africa that have all the required permissions and permits that is required by law to service our client’s need, legally and professionally. We strive to ensure a discreet, professional and empathetic service to our clients on one of their darkest days, just as you do.
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